“He was swimming in a sea of other people’s expectations. Men had drowned in seas like that.” ― Robert Jordan, New Spring
Whether the expectations are yours or other people’s, grief always includes things to do and things left undone. And, although Robert Jordan uses the pronoun he, drowning in a sea of expectations is NEVER a risk for only one gender.
Many of us are list makers — we were before we were grieving and we are now. But, even the list making feels like too much. Looking at the list of what all needs to be done is enough to send one back under the covers.
So here’s a plan. Get some Post-it-notes and make a list on one. But make that list ABSOLUTELY no longer than three points. Put the note where you will see it tomorrow morning. Do those three things before you even think of what else needs doing.
And then the check-in… how do you feel now?
Three tasks. One task at a time.
Tomorrow is another day, another three-point to-do list awaits.
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